A wedding is a beautiful, joyous occasion, the best day of your life. But sometimes that day is missing someone very important. When you lose a family member or friend, it can be difficult to feel completely whole on your big day. There are so many “if onlys” and “what ifs”. It’s hard to fully enjoy your big day when there’s an empty chair.
There are many ways to remember loves ones who’ve passed away at your wedding. Whether it’s a piece of dad’s old work shirt sewn into your dress, a remembrance table or candle at the reception, or a picture on an empty chair, it can mean a lot to you and your family to have a reminder and memorial. You know they would have loved to be there, but you can still honor their memory on your wedding day.
Even something small can have a big meaning. I have a friend who wears her grandmother’s wedding band to remember her by. Another friend had pictures of lost loves ones strung in her bouquet. You can say a prayer, light a flying lantern, or incorporate a favorite memory or saying into your ceremony.
A loss can be felt all the more on a day that’s supposed to be so happy. We miss those we’ve lost, and we can’t help but imagine what they’d say if they were here to see us married. We cannot bring them back, and we cannot heal our broken hearts any faster. But we do not have to pretend like everything is perfect when someone who should be there isn’t. On such an important day, we can’t help but miss our loved ones who are gone.
Anything little thing you can do to remember and include someone you miss will be a sweet reminder of their love for you and how happy they would have been to see you on your wedding day. A sad reminder, yes, but still sweet. So much of who we are comes from those who love us. A mother, a grandfather, a brother, a best friend. Sometimes it can seem wrong to be happy without them, or to have a celebration when a loss is still new. A day without a father to walk you down the aisle can seem impossible. Although they cannot be there in person, a small remembrance can help us feel they are there in spirit .
A life is full of joy and grief. Often a wedding is full of both as well. Honoring friends and family who’ve passed can be a healing way to handle the joy and the grief on your wedding day. You do not need to feel guilty, and you do not need to pretend. Although our big day may not be what we had hoped for, a small reminder or memorial can help us honor those we have lost on one of the most important days of our lives.
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