Now and Always: Marriage Advice from the Experts People get so excited about weddings. It’s a pretty exiting time, after all! Two people dedicating their lives to each other… of course it’s time to celebrate. I’m a sucker for all that mushy romantic stuff. But I think that sometimes we got way too caught up in the parties, the dresses, the gifts, and the ceremony that we forget the whole point is the marriage. Kerry and I asked some of the married couples in our lives what they’ve learned in their marriages and what advice they would offer newlyweds, and now we’d love to share their wisdom with you. The best part of a wedding is the marriage that follows, but a marriage is never easy. We’ve learned from these lovely people, and we hope you will learn something from them, too. Enjoy! Sarah, married 3 years Communication is key! Always talk and say everything that is on your mind. Bonnie, married 54 years Marriage is not 50/50. Marriage is 100/100. If you divide everything in half, there comes a point in time where you think you’ve done your share and won’t do anymore. You can come to a standstill that way, and both of you will get hurt. Regardless of what your partner is doing, you have to always give 100%. Elaine, married 25 years You don’t come to marriage expecting to get anything out of it. You come to marriage expecting to give everything. When you give everything to your spouse without expecting them to do the same, they love you all the more for it and they’ll want to give everything, too. And you can’t come to marriage with any preconceived ideas about what it will be. You can’t remember the ways people have hurt you in the past. You have to treat every individual as an individual. You have to learn to trust people again. Dean and Ruth, married 54 years You have to think WE instead of I. It’s important to make special ‘together time’ and to always have date nights. It’s okay to have a difference of opinion… it’s great to share some hobbies and interests but if there’s something that you don’t enjoy you can still share interest with your spouse. You don’t have to agree on everything but you still have to work together. And always laugh together! Terry, married 32 years Never take each other for granted and remember each day why you got married in the first place! Amy, married 26 years You have to share the small things. Everyone gets excited about all the big things you’ll do together, but you have to learn to enjoy the mundane everyday things too. It’s all about the small stuff. That’s what really matters at the end of the day. And remember, life is not like a Nicholas Sparks novel! Sam, married 3 years The hardest part about being married is that your life is always changing. Your family changes as you welcome new little ones into your lives or when you say goodbye to the ones you love most. You move, transition into different aspects of your work life or in some cases stop working to stay home with kids. You need to remember that as quickly as your life is changing, your relationship can change too. Make sure you always listen to one another, even if you don’t want to. You need to work on growing together constantly! Fred, married 32 years You can choose to be right or you can choose to be happy. Rose, married 26 years Surround yourself with couples that have similar values. And get used to living with each other before you have children, because children complicate everything. The best part about being married is having someone to share the ups and downs with. Casey, married 2 years Make sure you give them kisses even when they are sick (or at least give them a hug)! Sometimes they might hit you in the face when they’re sleeping, or videotape you doing weird things and show all their friends, but I get to hang out with my best friend all the time and that makes it worth it. Laurel, married 58 years It’s nice to have someone who always thinks of you first. The hardest part is being wrong and having to admit it. Tammy, married 24 years Make sure you and your spouse go to bed at the same time, more often than not… even if one of you isn’t tired, get a book light and read… but be in that bed together. Vivian, married 17 years Fill each other’s bank with words of affirmation, acts of service, and kind deeds, so that in the tough times you have something to draw from. Dan, married 2 years The best advice is this: don’t do anything stupid. When you’re married you have to learn to make sacrifices and work as a team. Both of you have to give up things to adapt to the other person. But the best part is that you have someone you know you can trust and always count on. George, married 58 years The best part of being married is having somebody nice to come home to. The hardest part is always getting the last word in during an argument, ‘Yes dear” 😉 . Karen, married 34 years The best advice I can give is to never go to bed angry with your spouse. The anger just festers and turns into something much bigger (this is a vow we made when we first got married). The hardest part of being married is the compromises you have to make along the way. It isn’t just about you, each spouse has to make sacrifices for the good of the marriage. But you need to be true to yourself as well and know which battles to fight. Sometimes that is difficult to determine. There are many great things about being married- someone always has your back, you can totally be yourself and know its okay to be that way, you have a sense of home wherever you are because they are with you. The very best part is knowing you have someone to share the good times and the bad times with and that you can get through it together. Deborah, married 26 years It’s okay to feel like this isn’t what I signed up for. But in those moments just keep going. It’s okay to feel that way, but you have to remember all the good things. The times when you’re picking up dirty socks are fleeting, but the joy is forever. Don’t ever give up, but don’t beat yourself up if you’re tempted to sometimes. Pushing past those moments of doubt is so hard but so worth it. Some random facts about Maggie: 1. She once piloted a blimp. 2. She’s climbed a mountain in high-heeled boots. 3. She hates spaghetti sauce. 4. Her favorite book is ‘Don’t Let Pigeon Drive the Bus’. 5. She is a photography junkie. 6. One of these facts is a lie. Names have been changed in this article for anonymity and photos do not match with specific quotes also for anonymity. Thinking about proposing soon? Check us out! 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