Once you decide you want to propose you’re going to be anxious and excited. This is a moment you’ll remember and a story you’ll tell and retell for the rest of your life. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but don’t let your nerves cause you to make one of these top 6 proposal mistakes.
1. You don’t make it special
If you’re not the romantic type, you’ve got a little work to do. Asking her during the commercial break during your favorite TV show doesn’t quite cut it; you can do better! Think of the happy places that you two share. Maybe where you guys met, where you had your first date or where you said, “I love you” for the first time. Making sure your girlfriend feels special will make the moment that much more memorable. It will be even better when you can watch it over and over because of your ring cam!
2. Blabbing about the plan
Don’t ruin the surprise by telling all your friends. We all know how that works out. You tell your buddy, who has a mutual friend, who tells her closest gal-pal and before you know it everyone knows. You might think that the person you tell won’t spill the beans, but with information this juicy, it is bound to be spread around. It is much better keeping the plan a secret to make it the best possible surprise for your special someone. If you have to tell anyone, tell them a few days before the proposal. It is much easier to keep a secret knowing you only have to keep it for a short amount of time.
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3. Asking empty handed
This may sound like common sense, but you would be surprised to know how many people ask without the ring. Do not forget the ring or ask before buying one. Sure, the bond you two share means more than a piece of jewelry, but it doesn’t seem 100% legit without the ring to prove it. If you are worried about buying a ring she won’t like buy, one from a jeweler with a return or exchange policy. You can also check out this blog about how to choose the perfect engagement ring: http://www.ringcam.com/choose-engagement-ring/
4. Hide and Seek Gone Wrong
You’ve all heard about the classic proposal of hiding the ring on a breadstick or in her salad… then she chokes on it, chips her tooth, chips the ring, or accidentally swallows it. A trip to the ER is not the best way to end your proposal. This old school proposal is also probably the most cliche, and unless you both fell in love in culinary school, avoid it like a seafood buffet. Just leave the ring in the box and get down on one knee. This is much more romantic and special.
5. Making it too public
We’ve all seen those big-screen sports arena proposals or the huge flash mobs. You may feel so passionate about your significant other that you want to shout about it to the whole world, but don’t be that guy unless she has expressed enthusiasm about public displays of attention. After the proposal, you two will want some time to be in your own love bubble. The last thing you want is all your friends and family members or, worse, strangers, huddling all around you. If you use a ring cam (what’s a Ring Cam? Check it out here: http://www.ringcam.com/support/ring-cam-guide/) you will be able to share the moment with everyone while keeping the actual proposal private and romantic. This way your family and friends can still relive the moment with you.
6. Not waiting for the right moment
Most guys want to get the proposal done with as soon as the switch is flipped. Once there is a ring burning a hole in your pocket you might feel like you can’t breathe until you ask your special someone, but please wait for the right time! Don’t let your nerves get the best of you and cause you to blurt out the question at the wrong time. This is a story you will be sharing and watching from your ring cam, for the rest of your life, you want to make sure it is a great story to tell! If she asks what’s in your pocket at the gas station, make up any excuse to avoid the “Filling up the Tank” proposal. Try not to act too suspicious. Also, if she had a little too much to drink at a nice dinner maybe wait until the next morning when you two are sharing breakfast in bed.
At the end of the day, don’t lose sight of your proposal and why you are doing it. You two have been together for a long time after all. The thoughtfulness you put into the day will make it one she’ll remember forever.
Looking for other creative proposal ideas? Check out other posts on our Wingman blog for more tips and tricks!
This post was written by RingCam blogger, Bailey Berberich