Weddings are a great time filled with joy, new chapters, and good times with family and friends. Because weddings are so love and couple-focused, they can be difficult if you’re a single guest. Even though you’re happy for the bride and groom and you know plenty of other guests at the wedding, sometimes it’s hard not to feel a little lonely. Instead of focusing on your being single, though, try to focus on having a good time! There are plenty of things you can do to ensure you have a memorable experience at a wedding, regardless of your relationship status.

What if my relatives ask me about my singleness?

Relatives are known for asking questions about your relationship status–especially at weddings! You’re bound to encounter these questions from at least few people. While there is no real way to prevent your relatives from asking, you can definitely change the course of the conversation. For example, after you answer the question, change the subject to something cool about yourself or something you’ve done. You can talk about your trip to South Africa, what you’re studying in school, your new job, your interests, etc. This serves as a reminder to both you and them that you’re a unique, talented individual who is doing perfectly great things without a significant other.

What if I just keep thinking about how single I am?

You’re allowed to feel single at a wedding because you’ll be surrounded by couples. It’s okay to feel a little bit of loneliness. However, you need to remember that this day is not about you; it’s about the bride and groom. Try your best to be happy for them because if it were your wedding day, you’d want the same thing! Remember that they’ve personally invited you to be a part of their big day, which is pretty cool!

What if I have nobody to talk to?

If you don’t know a ton of people at the wedding, it can be challenging to find people to talk to. Even though it might seem a little intimidating, try your best to be outgoing! There are plenty of family and friends of the bride and groom to meet and get to know. Since you all have a relationship with the couple, this is a great starting point to a conversation with any guest! Begin by simply asking them how they know the couple. You might get to hear some really entertaining stories and meet people you otherwise would not have. Don’t let not having a date constrain who you talk to; instead, look at it as having the freedom to talk to whoever you want!

What should I do during the slow songs?

When the slow songs come on, it can be a little awkward without someone you’re “supposed” to dance with. Instead of standing in the corner by yourself and watching other couples dance, make the most out of your situation! You can look around for a little kid on the dancefloor; they always have plenty of energy and are more than willing to dance with you! You can also ask a good friend to dance with you, especially if they’re single too! Dancing with them will be a win-win situation for the both of you. Slow songs could also be an opportunity to ask someone you’re potentially interested in to dance with you. Of course, you want to make sure this person is not “off-limits” before you make your interest too obvious. 

If you don’t want to dance during the slow songs at all, that’s okay too! You can make an extra trip to the drink line or spend some time talking to a relative you haven’t seen in awhile. No matter what you do, there is no need to stress about “not having someone to dance with” during the slow songs!

What if I run out of things to do?

If you’re single at a wedding, it can feel as though the night is dragging on. You’re going to have to make an effort to keep yourself entertained, but it will definitely pay off and you’re sure to have a great time! Make sure to spend some time on the dance floor–it’s hard to feel sad and lonely when you’re grooving to your favorite song. Plus, everyone will thank you for being brave and starting the party! Nothing is worse than a party where nobody is dancing. If you get sick of dancing and talking is getting old, it’s totally okay to take a break. Step outside for a few minutes, check your phone, go to the bathroom. Taking a break will refresh you and you’ll feel ready to continue the festivities.

Being single at a wedding might sound like it’s going to be no fun at all. This is totally not true. You can definitely have just as much (if not more) fun at a wedding without a date! Embrace being single. You’re young and energetic–you can get everyone out on the dance floor, you can have as many drinks as you want, and you don’t have to look out for anyone else! Make the most of it. Wasting what could be a really fun wedding by feeling sorry for yourself is pointless. Instead, put your best self forward and show everyone just how much fun being single at a wedding can be.

 


This post was written by Ring Cam blogger, Monika DeWitt